The Power of Example

My Daughter’s Decision

May of ‘23 was full of events. Through each, it became clear to me how much example means.

When my daughter told me as a high school sophomore that she wanted to attend the Naval Academy and become a Marine Officer, I was surprised. I shouldn't have been. Marines and Navy Grads surrounded her in the family. She grew up on Marine Corps Bases and had friends serving in Iraq and Afghanistan.

My Son’s Decision

Seven years later, on Memorial Day, my son told me he wanted to attend the Naval Academy and become a Marine Officer. When we resolved that he didn't have to go to the Naval Academy to be a Marine Officer, I asked him why he wanted to be a Marine. He may not remember it this way, but he said something to the effect that he wanted to be around people like his sister and her Marine friends.

The First Leaders Imprint is Lasting

I would go so far as to say that it is universally true that the imprint of our first leaders is lasting, whether in the military or private sector. The first leaders a Marine meets at his first organization set the example and establish the understanding of leadership and leaders. The new Marine or employee will emulate their leader if their approach appears effective and beneficial to the organization. If the leader is not adequate, the new Marine or employee will continue to search and struggle and discard what seems unjust, improper, or ineffective until they find an effective leader to emulate.

A Family of Examples

Marine kids are twice as likely to become Marines. It makes sense to me; it's leadership by example. It may be genetics; the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, or the experience, nature versus nurture. My Dad didn't tell us we had to join the service; he said, "I hope my sons would find time to serve their country." We saw what he did; I saw what my brothers did and their friends. My kids met many great leaders, their cousins served, and my wife and I served. I never told my kids they should be Marines; I tried to convince my daughter to consider the other services, and she vehemently refused. Nonetheless, they are both Marine Officers.

Actions Speak Volumes, Live What You Believe

The words on the banner at the top of the OCS crest say it best, Ductus Exemplo. It means leadership by example. No matter what your position or occupation, your actions speak volumes. What you profess to believe is much less important than how you live what you believe. The power of example is constantly at work, whether you're a Mom or a Marine.

Remember, all things are possible through prayer and heavy deadly lifts.™